With taking care of little ones, caring for the home, planning meals, outings, and all the little things moms handle on a day to day, things can get downright hectic and stressful.
And in case no one has told you today, you're doing an amazing job, mama!
For moms, it's easy to put everyone else's needs first. In order to show up as the best version of ourselves possible, let's make sure that you're taking care of yourself also.
You know what they say, "You can't pour from an empty cup!"
How can you overcome stress or overwhelm?
First, let's acknowledge that stress and overwhelm is a choice.
I know, I know. That's not what you want to hear.
But what about my to do list? The constant demands of motherhood? The kids. The meals. The cleaning. The not having any personal time, let alone shower or go to the bathroom in peace?
Although motherhood can demand a lot from us physically, mentally, and emotionally, how we perceive things, and how we respond to things is ultimately our choice.
Is it normal to have feelings of overwhelm, stress, or anxiety? Oh, for sure. And it's fully understandable. But we can find ways to keep ourselves in a state where we are not so prone to those emotions on a regular basis.
Let's talk about those ways.
This is not an uncommon practice; sometimes, we forget to give our bodies the basics. While you are wrapped in the moment, and your hands are full, this one thing can help you reset in a minute – a breathing exercise!
Stop whatever you are doing and listen to your body.
Try this breathing exercise:
Take a deep breath through your nose for about 5 seconds, hold your breath for about 3 seconds, and then slowly release the breath through your mouth for 7 seconds. Repeat this as many times as you need.
2. Learn how to say NO
It's time to simplify your life.
Say no events you're not excited for, say no to tight schedules, or say no to anything that makes you feel overwhelmed.
Remember, the key to less stress is healthy boundaries.
This is how you practice putting yourself first and letting go of the unnecessary bits of mental load.
Write down everything you have to do in a day, or in a week. Rank each item in importance, with 1 being you absolutely have to do it or you want to do it.
With the higher numbered items, see if they can be fully eliminated, minimized or delegated.
Sometimes moms think they need to be the superhero, when you could be better off, and more efficient by delegating some tasks.
Can you order your groceries online for pick up or get them delivered? That time you save can be better spent doing something you enjoy, being present with your family, or just another task that only you can do.
4. Get your alone time
Any busy mom knows that “me time” is a godsend! See if you can get your partner, family members, or even a baby sitter to watch the kids on a regular basis so you can some time to yourself.
Do with that time whatever you need the most! It could be going to yoga, brunch with girlfriends, or a nice long bath.
5. Build your support system
Talking to other moms that understand firsthand what you are going through is invaluable. Other moms in your area are looking for mom friends so it's not hard to find.
Find meetup groups in your local area on Google or social media. I've been having a lot of fun trying out different mommy meetup groups, mommy and me classes, and have met a lot of new mom friends!
It is helpful to have someone close to you that understands and empathizes with your feelings and emotions.
6. Time to move
By moving, I mean anything from yoga to taking a walk around your neighborhood. Stress management means taking care of your body too, not just the mind. As busy moms, we understand what you are going through, but don’t forget to move your body.
You know that exercising is a great way to give your body the strength it needs, but it is also excellent for your mental health. It’s just that, through the process of becoming a mom, it is normal to not prioritize this until it's too late.
Relieve stress by moving your gorgeous mama body!
7. Put your thoughts down
Have you tried journaling? Writing is a great outlet to let go of all the negative thoughts and stress you have accumulated during the day. Also, by reading what you have written, you might notice a behavior pattern in yourself!
Meditating has so many proven benefits, as we all know.
Before you think meditation is not for you, it's something everyone has a hard time with at first. It's not all about quieting the mind, but rather, observing the mind from an objective point of view. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Here's a guide on how to practice meditation for beginners.
9. Take up a hobby
Don't think everything you have to do has to be productive, make money, or somehow benefit you in some way.
Just the act of doing something that brings you joy can bring immense satisfaction and fulfillment.
Is there some activity that you've always wanted to try? This is your sign to do it! How about painting? Or dancing? Maybe going away to a pottery class? Having a creative outlet is an excellent choice, and we fully support it.
10. Talk to a professional
Sometimes, a best friend can hear you out. But, talking to a professional will offer better perspectives and help you get to solutions. A psychologist or an expert in the mom field can help you overcome the obstacles in enjoying daily life.
All busy moms need stress relief, and instead of keeping your tears to yourself, it is better to talk to someone.
You can relieve stress in many ways! Give up perfectionism and give yourself some time to slow down. After all, we are growing through motherhood, and growing takes energy and time!
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